So has anyone else besides me been accused of not talking?

I must admit that I am not a very talkative person to begin with. I literally could sit on a park bench with someone for an hour and barely utter two words. I'm one to enjoy the company, than to fill it with blah blah blah.

I'm not sure where it came to be where I stopped talking, as much. Although I can never remember really being all that talkative. In fact, someone that is the opposite of me that cannot seem to shut up, they annoy me. I generally stop listening to people after about 5 minutes if they ramble endlessly. I do this to a fault. I will actually tell someone to get to the point, or I will tell them they have 5-10 minutes before I start drifting. I even tell my wife this at times, and she can tell when she has lost my attention span in a conversation.

Some of it may be my job. A job related injury so to speak? I spend my work days meeting peoples needs all day, day after day. During that time I am constantly talking to them, about them, to myself wonder why people can be so stupid. By the time I am done at the end of the day I have had enough with talking, caring, etc. So, I enjoy peace and quiet, often.

But I cannot blame it all on the job, really. I have never been one to speak technically and in depth. I know some who can talk for 45 minutes about a juicy red McIntosh apple. Me, it takes about 5 minutes at most and then I want to eat that apple.

I have had people say that I never talk, at which point I answer "yes I do", and that is generally it. But what they are actually trying to do is generate a conversation and I usually will answer with a yes or no, and not enter into a dialogue. I guess that is frustrating?

Case in-point, I drive my mother home from Florida every spring. Typically my brother will drive her down and leave her there with her car, then he will fly home. I will then fly down in the spring and drive her home. This gives me and my mother several hours (about 12 each day) in the car to drive, oh and I guess we talk? In the beginning, on one of our trips north she turned to me and said "Christ, don't you ever talk" at which I responded "Yes". At the time I guess that wasn't funny but we have since laughed about it, and I must admit that I have improved a small bit since then.

So why do I have a blog when I don't talk? Because I figured it may help me out of my reclusive shell and allow me to vomit out my thoughts and not have to engage in a dialog with others, no conversing. I'll compare it to remedial training.

One of the things that sticks out with me, and I cannot remember exactly when it occurred, or when I started to notice it. When I used to open up and engage in a dialog with others in a casual conversation about something, they would ask me a question, something to start a conversation. I will give them an answer of my thoughts and/or opinion. If they don't agree with what I have said, that is fine, but don't try to tell me I am wrong or make me feel stupid. One sure way to shut me up is to ask me a question on a subject, and then proceed to tell me I am wrong, or make me feel stupid about a decision I made because you didn't agree with it. These types of people are hard to deal with.

So, with the needs of customers at work, and engaging in conversation with people that are inconsiderate are probably the root cause of my "quiet guy ways".

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